Making love and having sex are two different experiences. But there are times when you realise you are sleeping with someone who does not love you anymore. Over the course of a relationship, you get used to your partner’s little quirks, what turns him on, and how dedicated he is to your needs.
And even though women also care about the pleasure of the flesh, having sex caters to the carnal pleasure while making love believes in the saying – two souls merging into one. It was indeed like that when you were so in love; hardcore sex felt like the universe exploding and you and your man becoming one in a cosmo-orgasmic blow.
When someone is no more in love with you but sleeps with you because it caters to their needs and well…you have a vagina, it is time to rethink if you want to have an intense lovemaking session or be someone’s sex pillow.
Can you make love to someone you don’t love? Yes, men can. What if ladies?? But they don’t make love they have sex with someone they don’t love. Even women are capable of that when they are into casual sex.
The signs are always there that you are sleeping with someone who doesn’t love you. We list 6 signs here. Once you go through them, you would understand.
1. No eye contact
Eye contact can turn a game around. The eye contact talks alot and you can tell what he wants or how he feels through looking at his face for eyes don’t lie. So if your partner is more inclined to go doggy-style on you or positions that do not need any eye contact, chances are he is no more madly in love with you. These are the signs that he doesn’t love you anymore.
2. No intention of getting you off
Unlike before when he used to eat you up real nice, he does not please you down there anymore. In fact, your clitoris, being the centre spot of pleasure, remains unfavorably alone.
He gyrates against you to get you wet, plays with your breasts, bites and kisses to prepare you for penetration but that is solely to cater to his needs rather than yours. He is all about reaching his peak and does not bother if you have reached climax or not. This means he is making love to someone he doesn’t love anymore.
3. Not much foreplay, except he is particular about how he needs to be treated
He doesn’t pay attention to your anatomy but he sure cares about how you use your hands and tongue when you give him a blowjob. But he doesn’t give time to foreplay.
4.His after sex reaction is a sign he doesn’t love you anymore
Normally after sex, he gets off, kisses you good night and goes off to sleep; turning the other way. There is no, “You are so good” or “Was it good for you?”
The agenda was to fulfill his urges and you did it so he doesn’t really bother to know if you enjoyed it or not. He only thinks about himself because the emotional connections isn’t there
5.You feel like you are on a loop
Every time you are having sex, you want him to finish already. If you are making love, you enjoy it, you live it and you do not want it to end. But this does not love it is just lust. You can’t be having sex all day
6. Your comfort comes second
He gets rough too much even when you are not liking it. This is because he does not care for your comfort as long as it pleasures him.
Even after intervening about him getting too rough or too fast, he turns a deaf ear to you and keeps on doing it until he is done. And you are left feeling like a rape victim. And that’s not how a person who loves you should make you feel at all.
If you see these signs that he is sleeping with you but does not love you anymore then you need to make some hard decisions. You can talk to a counselor or an elderly person if you want.
